6 Steps To Cope With a Broken Heart

"Love is like a puzzle. When you're in love, all the pieces fit but when your heart gets broken, it takes a while to get everything back together."

» Posted by on Feb 14, 2012

Love is like a puzzle. When you’re in love, all the pieces fit but when your heart gets broken, it takes a while to get everything back together. ~ Author Unknown

Valentine is the day where people express their love. The smile from the receptionist who just received a bunch of beautiful roses, to the guy who had forgotten and is in a panic trying to figure out how to make it right.


Today for me makes a milestone of another broken heart, one of many in my life. Whether you going through it the first time or the 100th time, it doesn’t make it any easier.


I’m not going to say it’s easy to move on even though I know the theory and have first hand experience but the next step is within my control and not let it hinder me from moving forward with my life.


It’s like receiving a cut to the hand, the pain is there but you know it will heal with time. And with medical treatment it will speed the process. Medical treatment is not a metaphor for getting drunk or taking drugs as most people fall into, but the knowledge of understand the pain and applying to the wound everyday till it is fully healed.


There are a few things we need to understand and change our thinking. Consider this the medication for broken hearts.


1. Saying Goodbye

Sometimes it’s really painful to say goodbye to someone that doesn’t want to stay, but it doesn’t make it any better to try and hold him or her back.


2. It Takes Two Wings to Fly

Understanding reality that it isn’t going to work out if both parties are not committed. Like the theme song to a different stokes “now the world don’t move to the beat of just one drum, what maybe right for you, may not be right for some” or the saying “what is the sound of one hand clapping?”


3. Reconstruct Our Future to Avoid Deep Depression

My world that have catered for her, the image in my head of us being together for eternity, came crashing down and partly this is why most people fall into depression. We have to understand, we as humans have the ability to reconstruct a new future, every single day, every single hour, every single second. The choice is ours. Read more on “Depression is the inability to construct a future”


4. Opportunity Awaits.

As one door shuts another will open. We have to believe we are moving in the right direction towards another door and not just sitting still waiting for something to change. Believe me, I’ve sat down hoping something to change and 2 years had gone by.


5. Understand Yourself Before Committing to a Relationship

It’s a natural reaction to jump into another relationship after breaking up, for the fear of .. being alone, to mask the pain, or what ever other reasons maybe, but it has a higher chance to damage the new relationship. The pain, anger and by products of a break up still is lingers your system, and your action will amplify dangerously with your new partner. You need a good friend, a buddy anyone that will listen and that you are not committed to emotionally.


6. Thank Your Partner

This is a hard one for people to comprehend, but is to thank your partner for being in your life. If you haven’t change or learned anything about yourself in that relationship, then the relationship wasn’t a good one to start with. Some people may disagree with me, but I believe relationship is about growing together, not just physically but emotionally. It’s about trying to be a better person in the relationship.


So for those couple out there, today shouldn’t be the only day you need to show how much you love your partner. Everyday should be a valentine’s day. Cherish and appreciate each other, learn and grow.

Those singles out there, by choice or haven’t find the right one… it’s only the 14th of February, just another day. But if you waiting for the right one, maybe read this “Stop waiting for the right person to come into your life. Be the right person to walk into someone else’s”

1 Comment

  1. My name is Lara i am from United States, I was in a relationship with Ben and we loved and cherished ourselves for 3 good years and every thing was going on smoothly but February 14, 2012 a day i can call a lovers day we both had misunderstanding because i answered a call from a guy that is asking me out for a date but i refused,and he told me that the relationship is over and that he is fed up with me and i begged him because i love him so much but he refused me i was so down cast and i felt the world has come to an end for me but my friend told me about a spell caster that helped her sister out in getting her relationship back,a good job and favor in any of her endeavor but at first i was scared but i have to give this man a trial because i love Ben very much and i am not willing to loose him to any woman,so i ordered returning my love spell from this great spell caster that made me a happy woman again to say it all, my ex came back to me with much love and a caring heart…i am testifying to this great spell caster DR.LIKHA. if you need his help you can contact him on ogunolaspelltemple@yahoo.com

Submit a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *


You may use these HTML tags and attributes: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <s> <strike> <strong>